First Dates for SeniorsJeff Jacobus
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The language of love is universal. It's universal in a sense that it crosses boundaries, cultures, creeds – you name it. It courses through our veins and is part of our essence. The medium that we primarily use to convey and promote our sentiments of love is dating. The young have a wide-eyed sense of wonder and vigor, and the aged have years of experience upon which they have acquiried a sagacity of love and affection.
There really isn't any polarization when it comes to who is more qualified for dating – both the young and the old are both trying to satisfy their yearning to be with a loved one and share their affection. So, what are some things to be aware of when going on a first date as a senior? Read on and find out.
The most important facet of going on a date, whether you're 16 or 65, is keeping an open mind. You'll want to go somewhere that both you and your date will enjoy and cherish. If you make plans with just “I” - “I” think that the best place to eat is [insert restaurant here]; “I” think that my date would enjoy [insert movie here]; etc. - then, chances are, you'll have more of a debate than you will a “date”.
The best thing to do is discuss, beforehand, what your common interests are. Once you've both found something that you share a mutual interest in, then the both of you can review different things to do that will reflect those mutual interests. It's all about compromising, and finding a middle ground – isn't that what relationships, at their core, are all about, anyway?
So, find a place where both you and your date can go to without leaving a bitter taste in either of your mouths. One date that a lot of seniors seem to enjoy is going to an art gallery or visiting a museum. This setting always promotes a healthy dialogue that will allow both people to get to know a little bit more about each other.
Viewing and exchanging opinions on art might not seem to be the most conducive activity to the success of a first date, but it gives both people an underlying perspective on where their tastes lie, and can also express how passionate they are about something (which can translate into interpersonal passion for one another at a later juncture).
Observing a piece of art that you really connect with, but that your date doesn't, will create a suprising dynamic that will, if anything, benefit the date and, ultimately, the relationship. Afterall, they do say, “opposites attract”.
One of the more traditional things to do on a date would be to have a pinic in the park. It might not be the most creative, but it never fails to set a mood of contentment. It's also probably the most deceptively romantic settings that you can opt for. Just take a blanket, a picnic basket and let nature work it's magic.
Before you know it, you'll be spilling your hearts to one another, and a strong connection will be made. The best time to schedule a picnic for is usually is usually in the evening. This way you can both cuddle up, enjoy the sunset – this is probably the most emotionally moving and memorable way to arrange a picnic-oriented date in the park.
Lastly, make sure you devise an exit strategy. If you set up a time and place to meet your date, and they back out at the last minute without any announcement, then you'll be able to just get up and leave. If you go way out of your way, to an unfamiliar place, and the date doesn't go as planned, you might not only feel disappointed, but also stranded.
So, when choosing a place to take meet your date at/take your date to, make sure you're familiar with it. Going on a first date as a senior shouldn't be the least bit problematic. If you're a bit rusty, and you haven't been on a date in a while, chances are that your date is in the same boat that you are – the both of you are going to fumble around a bit before your past experience comes back to the both of you.
Even if the person that you're taking out on a date is more “up-to-date” (pun intended) in regards to dating techniques, I'm sure that they'll completely understand your situation and help make the transition from being single to the realm of dating all the more seamless and effortless.
So, go out there and show the dating circuit what you're made of. You'll discover that you're just as experienced, if not moreso, than a lot of your peers. I mean hey, you've had your whole life to hone your skills and intuition anyhow, haven't you?