Updating: How to Date Out of Your LeagueLeil Lowndes
When it comes to studying and writing about dating, Leil Lowndes is a veteran. Her crippling childhood shyness led her to seek out solutions to her problem and she has gone on to become an internationally acclaimed speaker. Leil has been writing about relationships and dating for many years and in "Updating" she encourages the reader to examine the qualities they truly desire in a mate and not to settle for anything less.
Some people criticized this book for encouraging a gold-digging mentality but I think that misses the point. She highlights four different character traits that might be the most important to you in a potential partner. Your key priority might be to find someone "gorgeous!", or perhaps "wealthy or high class", or perhaps "principled, loving and faithful" or even "uniquely interesting and one of a kind."
For each of these priorities, she provides a detailed game plan based on a sound understanding of human behavior, which highlights precisely how to find and attract that kind of person. If you're willing to analyze yourself and your deepest needs and if you're willing to change bad habits and try something new, then "Updating" could help you find what you're looking for.